Choose Forgiveness

You can't forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it.’ - Maya Angelou

The Challenge: When we experience unfair treatment, it might be hard to immediately forgive those who betrayed us.

The Remedy: Regain control over your life and refuse to live in torment for another moment.

Thought-Initiator: The purpose of Forgiveness is not to erase or excuse the injustice you faced.

Instead, it should help you release past pain's unwanted hold over you. Fight for your mental freedom. You are worthy.

Allowing Forgiveness

Make peace with the fact that the past cannot be changed, subsequently opening up to releasing negative emotions attached to respective memories. Remember that choosing acceptance and forgiveness does not endorse your unfair treatment in any way.

Processing past pain to release a memory's emotional hold over you is a healthy inner-power move. Face the undesirable memory head-on with the aim of healing and letting go.

This approach is deemed healthy as it prevents innocent future gestures from accidentally triggering past pain, returning you to feelings of despair. Try not to sweep hurtful experiences under the rug by pretending you were not hurt.

Take the first step or giant leap towards healing. Do not underestimate the power of momentum.

You already possess Bravery and Strength. Unlock your Power within.

Find comfort knowing that it takes significant strength and courage to process pain.

Some of us are unaware of the pain we carry. There are also those of us who have identified the root cause of our negative emotions and are unable to progress beyond that point.

Identify the Root Cause

Observe your thoughts and notice when negative emotions appear.

Unpack why the emotion was triggered. There could be several triggering scenarios. May the below help inspire you to identify your trigger/s:

1. Was it fear of an impending, high-pressure scenario where you've placed undue pressure for perfection on yourself?

   1. Why do you need to be 'perfect', or have things done a particular way?

   2. Were you trying to control the uncontrollable?

   3. Is failure not an option? Who planted this unrealistic seed and what were those in question burdened with?

2. Was it a particular tone in which someone addressed you?

3. Were you unfairly and intentionally placed in an unfair position where you now need to answer for?

4. Were you betrayed by a trusted loved one or a colleague?

5. Were you misunderstood and perhaps unfairly blamed, causing you to simply defend yourself?

6. Were you verbally or physically attacked, or both?

Process The Root Cause

Release the negative emotions and make peace that the past cannot be changed.

At this moment, choose healing to help release the emotional trigger's power over you.

Work on letting go. Enlist the help of local support groups or loved ones. You are not alone. If anything, you are capable.

Forgive Others

Allow short-term discomfort for healing to take place.

1. Leverage your custom toolset to help process and heal from past pain.

Return to your rightful position, having complete control over your emotions and appreciating your abundant life.

Forgive Yourself

Be kind and compassionate when processing pain. The past cannot be changed. Self-acceptance unlocks the door to self-forgiveness.

Self-Liberation - SOAR, HONEY!

Through regular Self-Awareness and Self-Love practices, you’ll unlock your best life:

1. Free from mental suffering.

2. In control of your emotions.

3. Navigating life's guaranteed ups and downs, grounded in your values.

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